Hear to be heard
Value to be valued
Acknowledge.
It makes a world of difference in a ‘ever busy world’ that’s always checking time.
Giving time and energy to understand another with empathy will help shift perspectives for the better.
Savvy
In the course of my career over the years handling teams of various departments, people management became my forte while experiencing many instances which needed agility in communication.
Here are few pointers…
If you can help it thoroughly prepare yourself with research so that you are prepared to handle any objections well.
Try to choose when and where to have a difficult conversation.
Always start with a positive mindset and speak with concern without blaming .
Make sure you are clear about what you want to communicate. And deliver your stance clearly without any ambiguity.
Speak in the right tone as per the situation.
Listen actively well to acknowledge emotions and understand so you can respond than react.
If there is too much tension or another impasse it is alright to pause, take a short timely break to diffuse tension and then recoup
Be focussed on what you wish to communicate and steer the conversation if it veers off topic.
Be open to alternatives and perspectives and see if you can find common ground to stay flexible to foster collaboration.
Resolve issues find win win solutions & clear issues.
Do you remember any instances of difficult conversations you have had? How did you manage it?
Savvy
An interesting quote on relationships I read this morning…
The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it’s not without doubt but in spite of doubt.
Rollo May
As I reflected on the above words a few thoughts came to me…
On life and relationships
Is there an interplay of doubt and commitment?
Is there commitment when in doubt?
What happens when doubt creeps in the committed?
Whenever they intersect there are conflicts
Whether at opposition or not
Both are in thoughts
Dashing from one extreme to another
At times contradicting at times rationalising
And returning back to apparent normalcy
When doubt dances in, commitment feels the burn
When commitment is strong, doubt rests on the back burner.
Have always felt there needs to be trust in a relationship as much as compromise else even the strongest of relationships fall apart.
What are your thoughts ? Do share.
I have received this poem below through a social media forward.
And I think I needed to read it today.
It put many things in perspective.
You see, there have been some small and inexpensive things missing at home . We have two house helpers And I was not sure who is the culprit.
They have been with us for a while and I have senior parents who live at home so I was letting it go and keep calm, because it was easier as it was causing a lot of unnecessary confusion and doubt.
In the meantime two months ago I replaced one of them. And I had felt a sense of relief somehow. And today the other is about to go on leave for the customary annual holiday. It will mean a lot of work for me personally until I find a helper. Yet I have been feeling positive that better is happening and all is for a good reason. Sometimes we grin and bear for the fear of changing statesquo…
While I cannot get my lost things as I have no proof, I think I needed a calm perspective to help me find me a way…
While I do believe that we must take action on that which is within our control , these words touched a chord in me..
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
Meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
Because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
— Rumi
In our life
There are all kinds of times
Life can seem unforgettable
With myriad memories…
All is transient
Sometimes it seems unforgivable
And yet…
When you don’t feel like forgiving
You give yourself the choice
For you can choose to forgive
If you do so…
Your life also evolves for the better
Choose to let go the unpleasant
For it makes no sense to hold on.
Change awaits to make a positive difference.
Choose well and in time.
Savvy
AI is very much here
And is entrenched itself
In every part of our life
Yet the question remains
More in the times of now
Are we the master or the slave?
What do you think?
Savvy
A glimpse of the intangible
Is often visible through signs
Like the strength of the soul
Appears in true forgiveness
In letting go of fear of failure
In ability to start all over again
In letting go of negativity
In ability to center the self
In letting go of revenge mentality
In the ability to share kindness
In sensing the lightness of being
In awareness of the bigger picture.
The strength of the soul shines through.
Savvy
Much happens in the sounds
Much happens in the silence
For it is never still
The troughs and crests
The highs and lows
The swing and the sways
Are all but a dance of waves
Of energy in the flow of life
Asserting in the ascent
And subsiding in the descent.
Shaping itself in the changes.
Much like notes of music
Coming together in coherence
And the spaces between notes
Making music to those
Who care to sense.
All parts to the same whole
Finding meaning in itself.
Finding purpose for itself.
Such is the circle of life.
Savvy
This is part 2 of my painting interpretation of Coherence inspired further from the two interesting comments by @Katiemiafredrick and @Simon here.
I came across these lines this morning…
We either make ourselves miserable ,
or we make ourselves strong.
The amount of work is the same
— Carlos Castaneda —
Questions for the self
What are your thoughts like?
What is the work you do making you feel?
What is the energy you sense ?
Are you feeling strengthened by it?
Your answers will reveal much to you.
Savvy
In the waves lies the secret of creation. Walter Russell
The waves signify freedom
Of flow in the movements
In the rise ad fall
In the swing and sway
Waves are all about change
Like no two moments are alike
No two waves are alike
Each shaped in the momentum
Of its own path in the making
Gliding through in grace
Like swivelling sands
And twirling tides…
In the highs and lows
Each creatings it’s own destiny.
Fear not the waves of time
As it comes so it goes
Leaving lessons in its wake
So much to learn and unlearn.
Savvy Raj
If you let work bleed into your night
You will find yourself racing with time
Like a hamster on a wheel
Churning in the loop of your own doing .
Savvy Raj
What makes me feel peaceful ?
Just spending time with our little furball combing his long coat every other day makes me feel peaceful.
A little moment every now and then writing my thoughts down feels peaceful
Spending time alone witnessing the stillness of the breath or practicing Qi Gong in the garden with green trees for company makes me feel peaceful.
Meditative moments especially at home in front a Buddha statue makes me feel peaceful.
Painting and dancing without an agenda, on my own, whenever I wish to, makes me feel peaceful.
But most of all…
Living in the now, without too many expectations makes me peaceful ✌️
What makes you feel peaceful?
Savvy Raj
My good friend @Geoff Hudson Searle posed and shared an interesting question.’Are we entering a new age of Wisdom?
‘A new age of wisdom ‘ is a fascinating topic to ponder on…
Wisdom continues to evolve
As change is the only constant
Knowing is never enough
Discerning knowledge with application makes all the difference.
Some see it as the Age of the Aquarius, a dawn of enlightenment, but it is also a sign of changing times when there is greater access to knowledge and increased interest in holistic & spiritual practices and greater receptivity & awareness of values of empathy compassion and collaboration and therein interconnections.
Speaking of AI, while we are better informed, the human aspect of intuitive and ethical considerations play a significant role in understanding and application of this new age wisdom.
Now, this rise of a new age of wisdom could also mean more inclusive and divergent thinking in a more conscious and enlightened world.
The question then is, what resonates within and what we choose to do with it.
What are your thoughts on this?
And sometimes when things don’t go as planned
May be you have been saved from some unknown obstacle
May be it wasn’t the right time
May be its all for the better.
©Savvy Raj
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