I am not a trained speaker, nor an expert story teller. In fact I am quite the antithesis for while I deeply enjoy conversing with people than speeches… I have always liked my deeds than talks to show up for me .
And I have sensed the butterflies in my stomach and heard my own beating heart while speaking to a room full of people, many many times in my life.
Like they say, life makes you stand on the razors edge, as much as on varied stages to experience what it is to be vulnerable, only to transform you.
But then I know I have it in me to ace it. After all, the power of my self belief and purpose has always stood out stronger than my vulnerabilities.
Time and time again I have realized how much it is all in our mind. The journey of life through the illusions, our delusions & revelations to the clarity in awareness.
In time I have often sensed that what makes you uncomfortable has your deliverance. In those moments of vulnerability, there is latent strength to overcome the odds.
What seems like an uncomfortable pause…
Can be the reason why what you say is heard and understood.
For if you truly care to sense
For there is much power in the pause,
In the space between two words two thoughts , two moments and two people.
Here are six things you can do for balancing your emotions and feeling better.
1.Become Aware that you are reacting than responding in your anger is the first step
2.Counting backwards from 20 to 1.
3. Removing yourself from the place you are feeling angry even for a short while by going for a short walk helps settle your emotions.
4. Switch words is a technique to use feeling oriented words to create powerful change of emotions with imagery to manage anger.
For example a positive word like Happy can evoke different feelings.
Or words like ‘take it easy ‘can evoke a sense of ease.
5. Better still is taking to chanting mantras, or hearing your favorite upbeat music , or even Journaling.
6. If nothing else imagining ocean tides in a flow and breathing deeply, in and out even for a few minutes eases the tense body & mind.
Remember to acknowledge your emotions as there is more harm in suppression. As you find healthy pathways to manage your anger, you bring wellbeing into your life
In the course of my career over the years handling teams of various departments, people management became my forte while experiencing many instances which needed agility in communication.
Here are few pointers…
If you can help it thoroughly prepare yourself with research so that you are prepared to handle any objections well.
Try to choose when and where to have a difficult conversation.
Always start with a positive mindset and speak with concern without blaming .
Make sure you are clear about what you want to communicate. And deliver your stance clearly without any ambiguity.
Speak in the right tone as per the situation.
Listen actively well to acknowledge emotions and understand so you can respond than react.
If there is too much tension or another impasse it is alright to pause, take a short timely break to diffuse tension and then recoup
Be focussed on what you wish to communicate and steer the conversation if it veers off topic.
Be open to alternatives and perspectives and see if you can find common ground to stay flexible to foster collaboration.
Some of the common Symptoms: Overthinking ,lack of focus, Stress ,Frustration, Racing thoughts .Indecisiveness in high pressure situations, Cognitive confusion. Tiredness Sleeplessness etc.
If you are feeling caught
In a swirl of thoughts & emotions
As if you are being engulfed
In a whirlwind of overthinking…
Perhaps about family & relationships
Or your career or finances etc
Where you feel stuck in a loop
Unable to take a decision
Or move forward with a solution.
It could be Analysis Paralysis.
While anyone of us may have experienced it, people with inflexible and fixed mindset often find themselves in this dilemma.
On the other hand people who are sensitive and empathy also find themselves unable to take a decision to move forward if it is going to upset another .
In fact Analysis Paralysis can create blockages for intuitive people and hence they need to understand it to address it.
If you are experiencing it now here are few solutions to manage it.
Acknowledge with Self Awareness by scanning your entire body to sense what, when and where,and how often you are feeling this way.
Address it by allowing yourself to be more flexible and open to new perspectives without fear.
Stop trying to please one and all. Trust in your capabilities and know you are enough.
Conquering your fear of failure by taking a small step towards that which seems impossible. Keep the faith in yourself and you can always pivot without unwanted pressure.
Inculcating a practice of mindfulness regularly helps increase focus by creating present moment awareness.
Choosing to slow down and avoid the pressures of multitasking help ease the cognitive challenges.
1. Sit less duration in the same position. Avoid long duration of sitting or lying down, choose to walk and move more
2. Strengthen your spine with exercises and especially for back muscles .
3 Straighten your posture and align your spine whenever you find yourself slouching
4. Sleep well using the right kind of mattress . If you sleep sideways, support your back and hip alignment with pillows between your legs while sleeping.
5. Stretch and move often to make the back supple.
Take care of your back and it will have your back all of your life.
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