Life as a couple

Has its own challenges

Yet what matters is trust

In a loving relationship.

Trust that makes you feel safe

That makes you sense security

And value for being you.

To be heard, & loved as you are.

Often expectations from one partner

To toe the line and accept everything

Brings in uncomfortable silences

Or unwanted arguments and conflicts

Breaking a relationship gradually.

Perhaps it is about negligence

Or lack of consideration & care

Perhaps it’s about lack of empathy

Or even inequality that creates a gap

That widens in time and cracks

The strongest of partners.

Compromise or need

May keep them staying together

Just existing not living a life.

The show goes on…

Until it one day becomes unbearable.

And the inevitable truth tumbles.

These words above are deeply interlinked in the flow of thoughts that arose after I read a translation by my mother from a Tamil quote forwarded on Social media.

Interesting to note it is from a divorced husband after 10 years of realization.

‘Don’t show your pride before your wife.
She came to you just believing in you
Not your relatives.

My property
My earnings
My will
Then who is she?
What is the meaning of her life with you?

Can’t she have her dreams, her  desires, to be fulfilled with you?

On reading this message

Something more rankled my mind

The question of expectations

To be fulfilled by the partner.

It’s never about needs

Being fulfilled by the other

But with one another.

In todays world

It’s about finding time

To be present in the now

With one another.

How many agree?

Savvy