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5 Tips on Anger Management

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A story share on Anger Management

There was a saint, who was never affected or angry at anyone, how much ever anyone ill treated or insulted him.

His disciple was intrigued by this nature and wanted to know the secret of his calmth.

When he asked the saint, the saint patiently explains how he conquered his anger.

“I had this long time habit of meditating while sitting in an empty boat on a lake. While doing so, once when I was in deep meditation suddenly another boat hit my boat . I was so angry to know who was so careless to disturb my meditation. But when I opened my eyes in anger I saw an empty boat which was moved by the blowing wind and hit my boat. I realised my anger was unaimed as it was an empty boat .

So when ever I get angry I remembered it n think this is an empty boat too and became quiet.

Our anger affects us in 3 ways.

1.It affects our wisdom
2.It affects our body
3.It affects our behavior.

Now you know the secret of my calm nature.”

The truly strong person is not the one who controls others by physical strength, but the one who can control himself from his anger.

This simple story elucidates  the necessity of  self reflection and awareness  of the negative effects of anger on oneself  as much as others.
Anger is often a result of frustration and feeling blocked . The reactions  can escalate out of control in time.

Uncontrolled Anger ruins life and living.

Anger is  damaging  and destructive.

It is important to  break free from its vicious cycle.

Here are 5 tips for breaking free of Anger cycle.

1. Taking some ‘ me time out ‘ everyday.

2.Thinking before Speaking 

3 Practicing Forgiveness & Letting go.

4 Using Humor to Diffuse Tension

5 Using Relaxation Methods for Calming

There is a need to acknowledge  anger patterns and work on the triggers that affect. So more than prevention by suppression it is better to understand  the loss of control  of words and actions and channelize it well.
Like a  little time out for self  could be about engaging  in physical exercise,  dancing , music  gardening, any hobby or reading a book,  regular meditation or simply witnessing nature .
All are very helpful in bringing back a sense of balance in our perspectives of thinking and creating  a space between  our steps.🙂

Always remember, it is important to know it is completely ok to seek professional help to manage anger when it is affecting our life and the lives around us.

Savvy

Author: Savvy Raj

Dance Educator, Writer, Artist, Designer, Wellness Mentor

11 thoughts on “5 Tips on Anger Management

  1. Nice points! Often, our anger is not directed at anything.

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  2. Thank you my friend. Yes indeed there are often many causes and different stages in the anger cycle. But when it is recurrent and explosive and if there is an inability to control outbursts that can be violent, there could a behavior disorder that may need professional help .

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  3. Wonderful post. Love the allegory.

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  4. Reblogged this on The Light Behind the Story and commented:
    Wonderful post on diffusing anger by Savvy Raj:

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  5. I THINK MANY DRIVERS ON THE ROAD SHOULD BE STRAPPED TO A BOAT FOR A FEW DAYS, THEY SEEM SO ANGRY, GREAT POST, CHINA

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  6. Thanks for sharing!!… 🙂

    “Holding on to bitterness is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die”… (Author Unknown)

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