Savvy Raj

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On Strength of a Woman

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Nowadays, I am finding there are lot of films produced on women empowerment in different languages. Perhaps this is what the public wants to watch. What is interesting to note is how well it resonates with our times.

I enjoy watching films that make you think and feel as much as I enjoy happy fun films

I just finished watching a new Hindi movie called Sukhee. It’s about a daring woman (Shilpa Shetty) who elopes and gets married to a man of her choice in her college days. In time she becomes a homemaker. But her husband over the years stops valuing her. She toils everyday at home but her daughter stops needing her. Her only desire is to go meet her friends and attend her school reunion after 20 years. But her husband does not want her to go.

Nevertheless she leaves them and goes to meet her school friends. She realises how much she has missed her old life and wants to stay back some more… But her husband gives her an ultimatum to come back now or never come back…

What decision she takes forms the rest of the story…

On Strength of Empowerment

We talk of strength and there are many strengths in the challenges
Of Courage
Of Resilience
Of Tolerance
Of Patience

Speaking of women, I want you to answer this following question.

Who is a strong empowered woman?
The one who has the courage to get up and leave when she knows she is simply being used but not wanted?
Or the one who stays and dares to change the equation?

I look forward to your answers

Savvy

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Author: Savvy Raj

Dance Educator, Writer, Artist, Designer, Wellness Mentor & Consultant

10 thoughts on “On Strength of a Woman

  1. katiemiafrederick's avatar

    SMiLes Dear Savvy Gathering Up A Few More Wiki Cliff Notes on the
    Movie “Sukhee” You Relate About the Power of Women And

    Choices of Whether to Stay in A Difficult Marriage

    or Pursue Other Dreams of Freedom in Life

    It Appears in the Movie That The Woman

    Has Been Married Close to Two Decades

    Not Sure If She Has Children in the Movie Or How

    Many Yet Surely Many Women Do Stay in Difficult
    Marriages For the Sake of the Children Being Raised

    For Financial Security and to Avoid Religious And or

    Cultural Stigma That Is Often Difficult to Deal With Too

    For those Cultures and or Religions That Frown Very Much

    on Divorce too the Catholic Church i Visit is Surely One of Those

    Places Yet i Don’t Particularly Consider myself Any Part of the Dogma of that

    Church

    i Just Like
    A Communion
    of Singing Uplifting Songs
    And i Tend to Make FRiEnDS
    Easy No Matter What Part of Life They are in

    And For me at Least Forgiving is Easy in What Has

    Often Become a Throw Away Human Society Where

    Humans Treat Other Humans More Like Objects Than

    Humans Sort of Like Clothes to Try on And Just Discard

    Before They Even Get Worn Out or Patches Are Tried

    on Holes in The Clothes Relationships Are A

    Challenge As Humans Change

    Considerably Over A

    Lifetime Where

    A New Creation of
    A Human Being

    More Positive or
    Negative Depending
    on Different Human Views May Come

    Other Than That Some Folks Are Stronger
    to Forgive and Work Hard to Repair Bonds of the

    Past Than Others So the Question of Whether to Stay

    Or Go Surely Cannot Be Answered By me Alone That

    Would of Course Depend on Many Variables Yet

    in my Case i Can Forgive Everyday And Still

    Come to A Hug By The End of the Day

    That’s Really All the Advice

    my Wife’s Mother Gave

    Us When We Got

    Married Over 33 years ago…

    In The Culture of India my Understanding

    Is Recently Divorce Rates Have Been As Low

    As 1 Percent out of Those Who Are Married

    Considering the Close to 50 Percent of

    Divorces in Marriages in the

    United States That is

    Really Astounding to me

    Yet of Course That Doesn’t Mean
    Everyone is Blissfully Happy in Their Marriage

    And Really If Folks Believe That’s How it’s Always
    Gonna Be They surely come to Find Out More About the Human Condition

    Hehe And Also Eventually Come to find out the Grass on the other Side Might Not

    Be
    Greener at all
    Yet of Course That
    Depends on the Individual
    And Their Environment So Much too

    And Hey at Least in my Country They
    Offer Marriage Counselors to Help with Repairs..:)

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  2. Sanjay Ranout's avatar

    I think, being strong woman is mix of things, she should have patience to adapt or accept new challenges, and the strength and boldness to put up her thoughts and try to better things, but then she should be resilient and undeterred too to quit when she is simply seen as something which challenges her worth or existence . Walking away isn’t always the best thing, courage to face challenges is important too but then at the same time she should have confidence to walk away and take care of herself if she is being used or ignored and demeaned consistently

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    • Savvy Raj's avatar

      Makes so much sense Sanjay Thank you for your insights. But also makes me think so much is expected from a woman in the name of strength. 🙂Isn’t it?

      Every life is challenging in its own way,
      And each finds their own ways of emerging stronger from it.

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      • Sanjay Ranout's avatar

        Actually there is an additional burden of duties the women undergo as a mother ,, but otherwise there are lot of expect from both genders from family though in different fields , but these days due to nuclear families and working women the additional burden of motherhood and as rearing of kids is looked upon best under the shadows of mother they are more hard pressed and thus mostly they quit their jobs or occupations after getting into motherhood role. But yeah here we talked about quitting, so for me as I think the most critical factor is financial independence, and every lady should aspire to be financially independent, and after getting into marriage should take atleast 3,4 years before she decide to become parent, till then we very well know the spouse and also other important people in the family , the environment,their thinking and all those things which matters,, and then if a lady feels worthless to stay in a marriage for any good reason and she is financially independent, she can take the decision much easily to quit if she opt for it. I think most of ladies suffer for 2 reason, firstly they are not financially independent and secondly they become parent soon , so then they are not confident about their future securities and also mostly families also doesn’t support quitting due to various superficial reasons so at that time if she is having job she can take decision on its own and be more confident to get out of a suffocating relationship

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  3. Tanvir Kaur's avatar

    Beautiful post and wonderful point highlighted.
    Before answering your question one thing I want to share – yes empowerment is necessary but not be misunderstood or misused as per convenience. Where we talk about equality and empowerment, playing sympathy card at same time doesn’t justify things.
    Whereas the question asked I think it depends on what circumstances you are dealing with. As decision depends how you strongly justify yourself.

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    • Savvy Raj's avatar

      Yes Tanvir I agree with you on this… there are many factors beyond what is apparent… each to their own.
      Personally I believe the strength of the soul is in living life lovingly no matter where life takes you…
      Thank you for sharing your perspectives. 🙏

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