Care or Control?
I was in consultation with a middle age couple.
They started fighting right in front of me.
The upset husband said-
I ‘Care’ so much for her & this is what I get in return.
To which the fuming wife replied-
He doesn’t care…
he just ‘Controls’!
The care from one person was perceived as control by another!
This made me think…🤔
What is Care and
What is Control?
How to identify them?
I received the answer.
I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinery issue…
Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears…😪
as our emotions settled down ,
We said sorry to each other…
My daughter hugged me and said-
You know why you got upset?
You were not upset because I did wrong.
but u were upset because
I didnt follow your instructions…
there is a big difference!
I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern.
I received my answer too…
I was trying to Control her under the disguise of Care…
that caused the conflict ….
If I really ‘Care’ for someone ,
I will not get upset or angry with that person…
I will keep searching different ways to help him…
If I am struggling in any relationship…
I need to closely observe
If there is any subtle Control hidden behind my apparent Care…_*
“Care is an expression of love
While Control is an expression of ego…
Control cuts…Care connects
Control hurts…Care heals.
Keep Caring for people
but dont Control them …
Often people are not wrong…
they are just ‘different’.